Muslim Love for Domestic Violence
Survey finds deeply regressive views of women among large majorities of Muslim men
Beating
wives reminds women who rules the house and encourages them to wear
sexy outfits during ‘make-up sex’ to make amends, declares Turkish
marriage guide
• 'Marriage and Family Life' says beating a woman is like 'medicine'
• It was published in two areas of Turkey and 'has not received any complaints'
• Politicians from the opposition party, CHP, have slammed the book saying it defines women as 'sexual slaves'
Daily Mail
9 January 2017
A
shocking book that says husbands can beat their wives and women should
wear sexy outfits to make amends with their spouses is being handed out
in parts of Turkey.
The
book, called 'Marriage and Family Life' by Hasan Çalışkan, a former
employee of the Office of Religious Affairs called Diyanet, has been
slammed by Turkish politicians for the controversial 'advice' it offers
to couples.
Some of the appalling statements that were written in the book include:
•
'A woman who does not beautify herself for her husband, and who does
not obey the headmanship of the man can be beaten; this would remind
her of the ruler of the house, which is like medicine'
• 'Polygamy is beneficial. Would it not be better if,
instead of divorcing his bad-tempered wife and making her a trouble for
another man, the man took a second wife, prompting her feelings of
competition, and eventually bringing her down?'
Other
shocking statements made in the 'education manual' include children as
young as 10 can get married, women should not work as it 'badly
influences' the woman's 'sexual duties' to her spouse and women should
not speak during sex as it could lead to a child being born with a
speech impediment.
The
394 page publication was reportedly handed out to people in the city of
Kütahya, about 200 miles south of Istanbul, by Kutahya council.
A
similar version of the manuscript, called 'Marriage and Privacy' was
also issued by Pamukkale city council in south west Turkey.
Members
of the main opposition, CHP Republican People's Party, have called the
book 'irrational', 'unconscionable' and 'depicts woman as second-class
citizens and defines them as sexual slaves'.
It was brought to the attention of the Grand Assembly by CHP deputy, Fatma Kaplan Hurriyet.
According
to Sol International, she said: 'This is an irrational, unconscionable
book that considers women as sheep, by saying the "the man is the
shepherd of the family". My hairs stood on end as I continued to read
it.'
The
leader of the party, Zeliha Aksaz Sahbaz, added the book 'depicts women
as second-class citizens and defines them as sexual slaves'.
The Education Minister İsmet Yılmaz described the publication as 'primitive and non-scientific'.
But
the mayor of Kutahya, Kamil Saracoglu, said the council, who has been
handing out the books since 2014, had not received any complaints about
the book until last month.
According
to SonDakika.com, a statement published on Kutahya council's website
from the mayor said: 'We do not publish this book as a municipality, we
buy it from a bookshop and give it as a gift to the marriage.
'The
contents of the book are open to interpretation. The verse consists of
works based on hadith [reports from the Islamic prophet Muhammad] and
scientific research.'
Husband held in killing of Iraqi-American woman
By By ELLIOT SPAGAT, Associated Press – October 10, 2012
EL CAJON, Calif. (AP) — The husband of an Iraqi-American woman whose
beating death initially appeared to be a hate crime was arrested on
suspicion of murder in what police described Friday as an act of
domestic violence.
The killing of 32-year-old Shaima Alawadi drew international attention
in March when the couple's 17-year-old daughter told reporters that she
found a note by her mother's bludgeoned body that read: "Go back to
your country, you terrorist."
Kassim Alhimidi, 48, was taken into custody Thursday after being called
into the police station, said El Cajon Police Chief Jim Redman.
Police said there were no other suspects. Redman declined to comment on the evidence or elaborate on a possible motive.
"Criminal investigations build, evidence builds, and you reach a point
where you have enough evidence to move forward, and that's what
happened in this case," he said.
Alhimidi went to Iraq for about two weeks to bury his wife and returned
voluntarily, Redman said. Police did not try to prevent him from
leaving the country because he was not a suspect at the time.
At the burial in Najaf, relatives wept uncontrollably. Alhimidi and the
17-year-old daughter, Fatima, fainted as the body was lowered into the
grave.
Kassim Alhimidi was publicly silent for six days after the body was
found, while his children spoke often with reporters. In his first
public remarks — made at a news conference at the family's mosque in
Lakeside — he demanded to know what motivated the killer.
"The main question we would like to ask is what are you getting out of
this and why did you do it?" Alhimidi said in Arabic as his 15-year-old
son translated.
Alhimidi also urged anyone with information to contact law enforcement
and thanked the Iraqi government for flying his wife's body to Iraq. He
declined to answer reporters' questions.
Charges against Alhimidi were expected to be filed Tuesday, said Tanya
Sierra, a spokeswoman for the San Diego County district attorney's
office. She declined to specify the charges and didn't know if Alhimidi
had an attorney.
The killing shocked residents of El Cajon, an east San Diego suburb and
home to one of the largest enclaves of Iraqi immigrants in the United
States.
Police initially said the threatening note meant they had to consider
the killing a possible hate crime but stressed that was only one
theory. They said there was other evidence and that the slaying was an
isolated case, easing concerns that other immigrants could be targets.
A son told reporters at the time that another threatening note was
taped to the family's front door shortly before the killing but they
decided against going to police, figuring it was a prank.
Alawadi, a mother of five, left Iraq in the early 1990s after a failed
Shiite uprising. She lived in Saudi Arabian refugee camps before coming
to the U.S., according to Imam Husham Al-Husainy of the Karbalaa
Islamic Education Center in Dearborn, Mich. Saddam's troops hanged
Alawadi's uncle.
The family arrived in the Detroit area in 1993 and later moved to San
Diego. Shaima Alawadi was a religious Shiite Muslim who wore a hijab.
Alawadi's father, Sayed Nabeel Alawadi, is a cleric in Iraq, Al-Husainy, a close family friend, said shortly after the killing.
The investigation appeared to hit a snag when a court employee
inadvertently gave a U-T San Diego reporter a search warrant affidavit
that a judge ordered sealed. In a court employee inadvertently gave t
said detectives found a text message sent from the 17-year-old
daughter's cellphone that read, "The detective will find out tell them
cnt talk."
The investigation appeared to hit a snag when a court employee
inadvertently gave a U-T San Diego reporter a search warrant affidavit
that a judge had ordered sealed. The document said detectives found a
text message sent from the 17-year-old daughter's cellphone that read,
"The detective will find out tell them cnt talk."
The affidavit, which was released to the newspaper while the family was
in Iraq for the burial, showed Fatima Alawadi was upset about a pending
arranged marriage to a cousin. She told police that she was in her
bedroom when she heard her mother squeal and glass break.
The affidavit also said Alawadi wanted to get a divorce and move to Texas.
Redman said detectives were in contact with Kassim Alhimidi during the
investigation. The police chief declined to say what authorities told
him when they asked him to come to the police station Thursday.
Redman said he never doubted that Alhimidi would return from Iraq after burying his wife.
"We believe he came back because he lives here," he said.
Hanif Mohebi, executive director of the Council on American Islamic
Relations' San Diego chapter, said Alhimidi is innocent until proven
guilty but that "domestic violence has no place in our faith at all."
CAIR was initially alarmed by the possibility of a hate crime but soon
urged patience to allow police time to complete its investigation. The
police chief said Friday that he worked closely with CAIR, the Muslim
Public Affairs Council and local mosques to keep an "open dialogue"
with the Muslim community.